I don’t typically write book reviews for my blog but I really wanted to share my thoughts on YOU are a BADASS at MAKING MONEY by Jen Sincero. Don’t let the title put you off, especially if the word BADASS feels too gimmicky as it did for me.
The book pitches itself as ‘master the mindset of wealth’ and ‘a life-changing guide to making the kind of money you’ve only ever dreamed of. I first heard about this book through a facebook group community who were raving about it and so decided to check out what all the fuss was about. Two clicks in Amazon and it arrived a day later.
Jen had me at the introduction with the quote, “Have you been brave enough to read this book in public, I wonder? With the title in full view”. She’s right I probably wouldn’t have. For most of us talking about money is about as comfortable as kissing our grumpy 90 years old aunt with halitosis. Even writing this blog about money feels slightly icky as its personal.
What I loved about this book is that it takes a deep dive into the psychology of our relationship with money and helps to reframe conscious and unconscious fears and beliefs that are leaving you stuck. Jen says its ok to admit that money does make you happy. It’s not money itself but what money brings you – choices, flexibility and freedom.
My own relationship with money has been an interesting journey. When I made the leap from corporate life to working for myself in 2006 I did a lot of work around my money beliefs, security etc. At that time (but no longer) I wasn’t a natural risk taker so making this leap was really tough. I was leaving behind a well-paid career and all the trimmings. Doubly hard as I’m not from a family of entrepreneurs in fact the opposite.
Then with the 2008 markets crash overnight lots of contracts came undone and at the time I hadn’t been self-employed for too long and was working mostly with Financial Services clients. I remember at one point not even treating myself to a cappuccino or Grazia. It wasn’t that I couldn’t afford them it was because I was in a grossly irrational and fearful place of money running out forever and ending up destitute.
Once I started to read You are a Badass at Making Money I ended up reading until 1am in the morning because I just didn’t want to stop. The section on Have an “Us” Talk with Money was a revelation. My deep down unconscious money blueprint from my parents was one of fearful of not having enough and losing it all. On the surface I’m pretty comfortable treating myself and sharing with others what I have but that feeling of clinginess is always eating way. And as we all know the more we cling on to a person or a relationship the less likely we are to have an abundance or for it to stay.
What I loved about this book is it’s not your typical guide to getting rich by savings and investments. Jen’s writing style is conversational and motivational which isn’t surprising as she’s a coach too. She writes about money having an energy and how we all have a personal relationship with money. Tapping into our natural ability to get rich and unblocking the blocks to what holds us back from making more money.